Stepping Into Retirement: Why Spending Can Feel So Hard
In Episode 123 of the Last Paycheck Podcast, CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER® professionals Archie and Rob Hoxton tackle an issue many retirees do not expect. After decades of saving diligently, actually spending that money in retirement can feel uncomfortable, even frightening.
They describe two common personality types they see in their practice: people who are excellent savers but reluctant spenders, and people who are enthusiastic spenders but poor savers. Retirement planning is difficult for both groups, but that first group often faces a unique psychological hurdle. They have done the hard work of accumulating assets, yet feel anxiety when the paycheck stops and withdrawals begin.
For many, this hesitation is rooted in early money memories. Scarcity during childhood, parental messages about never touching principal, or memories of periods like the Great Depression or the 2008 crisis can all shape how someone feels about drawing down savings in retirement.
The Emotional Side of “Turning the Spigot Around”
Archie and Rob explain that this is not just a math problem. It is an identity and mindset shift. Throughout working years, the pattern is simple. Earn income, save a portion, never touch the nest egg. That habit is reinforced for 30 or 40 years.
When retirement arrives, the entire model flips. Income from work stops and your portfolio becomes the source of your lifestyle. Even when a financial plan shows a high probability of success, many retirees still feel uneasy. They worry about outliving their money, market volatility, or losing their sense of purpose once work is no longer central to their lives.
Rob notes that some of the people who struggle the most with this shift are also the people who delay retirement, even when they are financially ready. The fear of spending, combined with uncertainty about what comes next, keeps them working longer than they might otherwise choose.
Rethinking What Your Portfolio Is For
A major theme in the episode is reframing the role of your investments. Archie encourages listeners to ask a basic but powerful question: What were you saving for.
If the answer includes travel, time with family, meaningful volunteer work, or simply having flexibility, then at some point you must allow your money to do its job. That means seeing yourself not only as a worker, but as an investor whose capital is now doing the earning on your behalf.
They describe portfolios not as static piles of money, but as a productive “army of dollars” deployed into companies, bonds, and other assets that generate dividends, interest, and growth. Understanding how a diversified portfolio is designed to support long term withdrawals can make the idea of spending feel less like erosion and more like using a well engineered tool as intended.
The Power of a Scalable Lifestyle
One of the most practical concepts in the episode is the idea of a “scalable lifestyle.” Instead of a rigid, all or nothing retirement budget, a scalable lifestyle allows for spending that can be dialed up in good markets and pared back during more challenging periods.
Rob and Archie emphasize that being debt free is one of the most important foundations for this approach. Fixed debt payments reduce flexibility. Without them, you can temporarily reduce discretionary spending such as travel, large purchases, or luxury items if markets are struggling, without jeopardizing your basic needs.
This flexibility helps retirees feel more in control, which directly reduces anxiety about drawing from their portfolios.
Stress Testing Your Plan Against Real World Risks
Education and planning are at the heart of building confidence. Archie and Rob highlight several steps that can help a saver feel ready to spend.
1. Build and maintain a detailed financial plan
A good retirement plan does more than list account balances. It projects spending, taxes, Social Security, and investment returns under a range of scenarios. Modern planning tools can run thousands of simulations to estimate the probability that your plan will succeed, even if markets perform poorly in the early years of retirement.
2. Understand how market volatility affects withdrawals
Many retirees vividly remember 2008, along with other market shocks. The hosts explain that it is crucial to understand how different withdrawal rates behave during downturns, and how a properly diversified portfolio is designed to weather corrections and bear markets over time.
3. Clarify your non financial purpose
Part of the fear around retirement is not just about money. It is about identity. Rob jokes that he does not want to become “Rob who sits on the couch.” Thinking ahead about the roles, routines, and contributions that will give retirement meaning can make it easier to embrace the shift away from a paycheck.
From Anxiety to Confidence
The message of Episode 123 is not that fear is irrational, but that it is manageable. With a clear plan, a scalable lifestyle, and a better understanding of how your investments work, you can move from perpetual accumulation to thoughtful, confident spending in retirement.
You saved for a reason. At some point, it is not only acceptable to spend. It is the fulfillment of the plan you built.









