Episode 114 – The 3 Estate Planning Documents Every Adult Needs

If you’re like most people, estate planning isn’t high on your list of exciting weekend activities. But as Rob and Jimmy make clear in Episode 114 of The Last Paycheck Podcast, having the right documents in place can make a huge difference for your loved ones—and your legacy.

Why Estate Planning Matters for Everyone (Not Just the Wealthy)

There’s a common myth that estate planning is only necessary if you have millions in assets. The truth? If you have a family, a bank account, or even just a strong opinion about your healthcare, you need an estate plan. Without it, your state government could end up making decisions you wouldn’t agree with—and your family could be left in a difficult position during an already stressful time.

The Three Critical Documents You Need

1. Last Will & Testament

This document directs who receives your possessions and appoints an executor to carry out your wishes. Rob emphasizes that a will is your final voice—it’s your opportunity to make sure your values are honored and your assets go where you want them to.

Jimmy points out a common misconception: that a will overrides beneficiary designations. It doesn’t. If your retirement account still lists your ex-spouse as the beneficiary, no will in the world can undo that mistake. That’s why it’s critical to regularly update both your will and your account designations.

2. Healthcare Directive (Living Will)

This document outlines your preferences for medical treatment if you’re incapacitated. Do you want to be kept alive on machines indefinitely? Or not? A healthcare directive allows you to clearly communicate your wishes—and it also appoints someone (your healthcare agent) to make those decisions if you can’t.

As Rob and Jimmy stress, this isn’t just a legal form—it’s a gift to your family. It removes the burden of guesswork and guilt from your loved ones in the middle of a crisis.

3. Durable Power of Attorney

If you become unable to manage your finances—due to illness, accident, or cognitive decline—this document gives someone you trust the legal authority to step in and manage your bills, taxes, and accounts.

Without a power of attorney, your family could be forced to go to court just to pay your mortgage or access your bank account. It’s simple to put this in place, and potentially devastating if you don’t.

How to Get These Documents

Rob and Jimmy encourage listeners not to overcomplicate the process. For simple needs, online tools and state-specific forms can work. For more complex situations—multiple properties, blended families, or business interests—working with an estate planning attorney is best.

And don’t forget: estate planning isn’t one and done. Update your documents as your life changes—marriages, children, divorces, or major asset changes should all trigger a review.

Your Next Step

Estate planning isn’t about fear—it’s about control and care. It’s about protecting your family, your values, and the wealth you’ve worked hard to build.

Ready to get started?

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Episode 113 – Politics and Your Portfolio: How to Invest Without Losing Your Head

It’s no secret: political seasons can trigger intense emotions. But should those emotions guide your investment decisions?

In Episode 113 of the Last Paycheck podcast, Rob and Archie Hoxton explore how politics—left, right, or center—can quietly sabotage even the most thoughtful investors. From fear-induced selloffs to overconfidence when a preferred party is in power, political cycles tend to amplify emotional investing.

And that’s a problem.

Why Political Emotions Don’t Belong in Your Portfolio

Many investors believe that the markets will perform better—or worse—based solely on which party holds power. But the truth is more complex. Historically, markets have performed well under both Republican and Democratic leadership. Why? Because markets respond to long-term economic and business trends—not daily political drama.

As Archie puts it: “The market doesn’t care who’s president—it cares about earnings, interest rates, and business conditions.”

That means your personal reaction to politics could cause you to time the market poorly. And that rarely ends well.

The Cost of Emotional Investing

In the episode, Rob shares a client story about someone so politically stressed they stopped checking their account. When they finally came in for a review—expecting losses—they were shocked to learn their portfolio had actually grown significantly.

This isn’t uncommon. Political turmoil may cause short-term volatility, but long-term market gains often resume once emotions cool. Unfortunately, investors who panic miss the rebound—and lock in losses.

What to Do Instead

A better approach? Create a disciplined plan that can weather political storms:

  • Diversify broadly: U.S. and international markets, various sectors, risk-balanced portfolios.
  • Rebalance regularly: Keep your strategy aligned even as markets shift.
  • Keep investing: Especially if you’re still working. Long-term growth requires long-term participation.
  • Stress test your plan: Make sure you’re still on track even if markets dip.

Most importantly: avoid investing based on the news cycle. Markets care more about stability and policy than politics. And they hate emotional investors.

The Real Secret: A Financial Plan

Markets will always swing. Political drama will always exist. But a thoughtful, stress-tested financial plan can give you the clarity to ignore the noise—and keep moving forward.

As Rob says, “Having a plan means you don’t have to wonder whether you’re okay when the market drops. You’ll already know.”

Worried politics might derail your financial strategy?

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Episode 112 – Should You Trust Financial Rules of Thumb? Here’s What to Know

When it comes to managing your money, simple advice is appealing. Save 10%. Pay off all your debt. Take Social Security at 70. But are these “rules of thumb” really helping—or could they be steering you off course?

In Episode 112 of Last Paycheck, Archie and Rob Hoxton dive into the most common financial shortcuts and challenge their usefulness in real-world scenarios.

The Truth Behind 6 Common Rules of Thumb

Let’s walk through the popular rules discussed—and why they may or may not work for your situation.

1. Save 10% of Your Income

This is often the first bit of advice people hear when starting a new job. And for someone just getting started, it’s not bad. But for someone playing catch-up or approaching retirement? 10% likely won’t cut it. You may need 15% or more, especially if you didn’t start saving in your 20s.

Bottom line: A good starting point, but not a long-term strategy.

2. You’ll Need 80% of Your Income in Retirement

Rob and Archie caution that this rule may be outdated. Many retirees end up needing closer to 100%—especially in the early, active years of retirement filled with travel and new experiences. Later, healthcare costs often rise, adding more pressure to retirement budgets.

Bottom line: Don’t underestimate your lifestyle or medical expenses.

3. The 4% Withdrawal Rule

The 4% rule assumes you can withdraw 4% of your portfolio annually (adjusted for inflation) for 30 years without running out of money. But markets fluctuate. Emergencies happen. Needs change.

Bottom line: It’s a guide—not a guarantee. Your plan should adapt to your life.

4. Be Debt-Free Before Retirement

This one feels good—but may not always be the smartest financial move. If you have a 2% mortgage and your investments earn more, paying off that mortgage early could cost you in long-term growth. The key is balance.

Bottom line: Don’t sacrifice future wealth for short-term comfort.

5. Keep 3–6 Months in an Emergency Fund

Archie and Rob agree this is situational. A business owner with unpredictable income may need more than six months saved. A risk-tolerant investor with ample liquidity elsewhere might be fine with less.

Bottom line: Customize your emergency fund to your lifestyle and risks.

6. Delay Social Security Until 70

While waiting can increase your monthly benefit, it’s not always the best move. Health concerns, family longevity, and income needs all play a role. For some, claiming early might be a better fit—even if it’s not “optimal” on paper.

Bottom line: When to claim Social Security should be a personal decision, not a rule.

The Takeaway: Rules Are Just a Starting Point

Financial rules of thumb exist for a reason—they offer simplicity and can be helpful in the absence of a plan. But life isn’t one-size-fits-all, and neither is your money.

If you’ve been relying on quick shortcuts or conventional wisdom, now is the time to upgrade from “general advice” to a personalized plan that reflects your unique life, goals, and risks.

Want to stress-test your assumptions?

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Episode 111 – Tax Law Changes for 2025 – What Retirees and Charitable Givers Need to Know

If you’re nearing retirement, living on a fixed income, or focused on charitable giving, the 2025 tax law changes may affect you more than you realize. In Episode 111 of the Last Paycheck podcast, Archie Hoxton and advisor Emily Leslie explain what you need to know—and what to do now to prepare.

1. Overtime Deduction: A Win for Middle-Income Earners

If you’re working overtime to boost savings or pay off debt, there’s good news: from 2025 to 2028, up to $25,000 of overtime income will qualify for an above-the-line deduction. This benefit begins to phase out at $300,000 of household income (MFJ).

Action Step: If you expect to earn overtime in the coming years, adjust your tax planning to take advantage of this short-term window

2. The Senior Deduction: A Modest but Meaningful Break

While headlines claimed “No More Taxes on Social Security,” the reality is more nuanced. Instead of eliminating Social Security taxes, the new law introduces a $6,000 deduction for Americans age 65+ with income under $150,000 (MFJ). It’s available from 2025 to 2028 and doesn’t apply if you’ve already started benefits before age 65.

Who Benefits Most?

  • Retirees aged 65+ with modest income
  • Those delaying Social Security to full retirement age or beyond

3. Estate Tax Made (More) Predictable

For high-net-worth individuals and business owners, the estate tax threshold has been solidified. Now, individuals can pass on up to $15 million—and couples up to $30 million—without triggering estate tax liability. This change removes the previous uncertainty around sunset provisions.

If your estate is below that amount: No changes needed.
If it exceeds the threshold: Consider trusts, gifting strategies, or business succession plans.

4. SALT Deduction Expansion: Relief for High-Tax States

Taxpayers in states like New York, New Jersey, or California may benefit from the raised state and local tax (SALT) deduction cap—now $40,000 instead of $10,000. This provision begins phasing out at $500K income and reverts in 5 years.

Be cautious: Roth conversions or large IRA withdrawals could inadvertently push you over the $500K income limit, disqualifying you from the higher deduction.

5. Charitable Giving: More Options, More Rules

For donors, the new rules include:

  • Above-the-line deduction: Up to $2,000 for charitable gifts without itemizing
  • 0.5% AGI floor: You must give at least this amount before deductions kick in
  • $1,700 SGO credit: Donations to Scholarship Granting Organizations (SGOs) offer a dollar-for-dollar reduction in your tax bill

Pro Tip: Combining these strategies may reduce your taxable income while supporting causes you care about.

Final Thought

Tax laws are always changing—but the next few years offer unique planning opportunities. Whether you’re still working, recently retired, or managing a large estate, it’s important to understand how these changes affect your financial picture.

Want a quick way to review where you stand?

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Episode 110 – What the “One Big Beautiful Bill” Means for Your Taxes (2025–2028)

The recently passed legislation known as the “One Big Beautiful Bill” is about to reshape the personal finance landscape—and in Episode 110 of Last Paycheck, advisors Archie Hoxton and Emily Leslie walk you through what matters most for everyday families, retirees, and business owners.

Here’s what you need to know—and how to prepare.

Making the Tax Cuts and Jobs Act Permanent

The biggest headline is the permanent extension of the 2017 Tax Cuts and Jobs Act. That means the doubled standard deduction and reduced tax brackets are here to stay. For most households, this helps avoid a major tax increase that was originally expected if the law expired.

However, the flip side is the continued loss of many itemized deductions, especially those in the miscellaneous category. If you were expecting a return to the old deduction system, that’s no longer on the table.

Boosts to the Child Tax Credit

Families will see a modest but helpful increase in the Child Tax Credit—from $2,000 to $2,200 per child, with $1,700 of that amount refundable. Households earning up to $400,000 (married filing jointly) remain eligible, but you must owe federal taxes to receive the refundable portion.

Big Win for Service Workers: Tip Income Deduction

One of the most surprising—and generous—changes is a new above-the-line deduction for tip income. Starting in 2025, eligible workers can deduct up to $25,000 of tip-based income from their taxable income. This is especially helpful for servers, bartenders, delivery drivers, and others who now earn tips through credit card transactions.

The IRS and Treasury will release additional guidance about which professions qualify, but the basic test appears to be “customary and voluntary” tipping.

Auto Loan Interest Becomes Deductible (With Conditions)

For vehicles assembled in the U.S., borrowers can deduct up to $10,000 in interest on auto loans. This deduction applies from 2025 to 2028 and begins phasing out above $200,000 in household income. Buyers will need to verify final assembly location, but for many Americans, this change will offer substantial tax savings on a necessary expense.

A New Tax-Advantaged Account for Babies: The Trump Account

A new savings vehicle—informally dubbed the “Trump Account”—will give newborns a $1,000 federal contribution if they’re born between 2025 and 2028. Parents can contribute $5,000 annually, and employers can add $2,500 per year.

But there are caveats:

  • Only U.S. stocks are allowed as investments
  • Withdrawals for education, first-time home buying, or small business use are allowed after age 18—but earnings will be taxed
  • Early withdrawals come with penalties

This account blends elements of a Roth IRA and 529 plan but comes with unique restrictions that families must consider carefully.

Final Thoughts

While the “One Big Beautiful Bill” offers tax relief and new savings tools, it also brings complexity and confusion. Many of the provisions are time-limited (2025–2028), and several will require additional IRS clarification.

If you’re a tip-based worker, expecting a child, considering a new vehicle, or simply trying to make sense of these changes—now is the time to act.

Evaluate your own risk comfort and investment goals.

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Episode 109 – How to Protect Your Portfolio Without Missing the Market

When markets rise, we celebrate. When they fall, panic sets in.

This emotional rollercoaster becomes especially intense once you retire and the paychecks stop. In Episode 109 of the Last Paycheck Podcast, CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER® professionals Archie and Rob Hoxton break down two options for reducing portfolio anxiety while staying invested: buffer ETFs and fixed indexed annuities.

The Problem: Fear of Loss vs. Need for Growth

Rob shares a common scenario—retirees threatening to cash out entirely when markets dip. The instinct is understandable, but the consequences can be costly. Cash and CDs often don’t outpace inflation, which means your retirement savings could lose purchasing power over time.

Most retirees still need growth—but also want stability. That’s where buffer ETFs and fixed indexed annuities come in.

What Are Buffer ETFs?

Buffer ETFs are exchange-traded funds that offer a unique tradeoff:

  • Upside capped (e.g., 15%)
  • Downside protection (e.g., first 10% loss absorbed)
  • One-year holding periods

These investments use options strategies to deliver a portion of market gains while softening some losses. They’re liquid like any ETF, but to benefit fully, you must hold for a full cycle.

Key Pros:

  • Limited downside exposure
  • Lower cost than annuities
  • Market-based structure

Key Cons:

  • Gain limits in strong years
  • Still some risk if market drops steeply
  • Reset annually—timing matters

What Are Fixed Indexed Annuities?

These are insurance products that link your returns to a market index (like the S&P 500) but protect you from losses entirely.

  • No market losses (your worst year = 0% return)
  • Capped growth (e.g., 12%)
  • Tax deferral on gains (non-IRA assets)

Archie and Rob stress that not all annuities are created equal. The best ones are low-cost, non-commissioned, and provide liquidity after a short lock-in period. But they can still have market value adjustments, limited upside, and tax consequences on withdrawal.

Key Pros:

  • Full downside protection
  • Growth potential
  • Tax-deferred (in non-qualified accounts)

Key Cons:

  • Complex structures
  • Income taxed as ordinary income
  • Limited liquidity depending on contract

Should You Use One of These Tools?

It depends on your retirement needs, timeline, and risk tolerance. If you’re the type to lose sleep during market drops—or already considering shifting everything to cash—these vehicles might offer a happy medium.

But they’re not one-size-fits-all. Rob and Archie recommend working with a fiduciary to evaluate whether these fit your broader plan.

Final Takeaway

Buffer ETFs and fixed indexed annuities are designed to offer peace of mind for cautious investors. They trade full market gains for some downside protection—and can help nervous retirees stay invested for the long haul.

But every financial decision comes with tradeoffs. Make sure you understand the mechanics, risks, and rewards before jumping in.

Evaluate your own risk comfort and investment goals.

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Episode 108 – How to Take a Sabbatical Without Derailing Your Financial Plan

Have you ever dreamed of pressing pause on your career to travel, care for a loved one, learn something new, or simply catch your breath?

Sabbaticals—or extended career breaks—are becoming more common across professions. But they’re often under planned. Without a strategy, taking a sabbatical can lead to lost income, reduced retirement savings, gaps in health coverage, and financial stress.

In Episode 108 of Last Paycheck, CFP® professionals Rob and Archie Hoxton explore the logistics and consequences of taking a sabbatical, and how smart financial planning can turn your dream pause into a sustainable reality.

Why People Take Sabbaticals

Rob and Archie highlight a range of reasons:

  • Burnout or mental fatigue
  • Desire to explore personal growth or education
  • Career change or exploration
  • Family caregiving responsibilities
  • Mission trips or long-term travel

While these motivations are valid, the implications of stepping away from work—especially without a plan—can be far-reaching.

The #1 Rule: Know Your Timeframe

Before taking any financial action, estimate the length of your sabbatical. Is it three months? One year? Indefinite?

Your timeframe determines how much you’ll need in savings and how to structure your withdrawal plan. Without clarity, it’s easy to drain your emergency fund or disrupt long-term goals.

What You’ll Miss (and Need to Replace)

During a career pause, most people lose:

  • A steady paycheck
  • Employer-provided health insurance
  • Retirement contributions
  • Life and disability insurance
  • Social Security earnings quarters

Rob and Archie encourage listeners to think beyond just the paycheck. For example, if your employer pays $1,000/month toward your health plan, you’ll need to budget that amount separately—or risk going uninsured.

How a Sabbatical Affects Retirement

Even a short sabbatical can delay your retirement date or reduce your retirement income if you’re no longer contributing to savings. Gaps in your Social Security earnings record may also affect your benefit.

This is where financial modeling matters. As Rob explains, “You need to see your plan up on the big screen. What happens if you pause income, increase expenses, and stop saving for a year? Can your plan still hold up?”

A good financial planner can help stress-test your plan for these “what if” scenarios—before you make the leap.

Pretirement, Not Retirement

Archie introduces the idea of “pretirement”—where a sabbatical is a softer on-ramp to a new career or a different kind of work-life balance. It’s part of a broader movement toward flexible careers and personalized financial lives.

The key? Planning. Whether you negotiate a formal sabbatical or are forced into a pause by life circumstances, understanding the risks and planning for them makes all the difference.

Final Thought

Taking a sabbatical doesn’t have to be a financial setback. With preparation, it can be a powerful part of your personal and professional evolution.

Use the Sabbatical Readiness Planning Tool (linked below) to see where you stand and let a fiduciary advisor help you evaluate the impact before you hit pause.

Thinking about a sabbatical? Make sure your finances are ready.

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Episode 107 – Why Beneficiary Designations Matter More Than You Think

When you think about estate planning, your mind probably goes to wills, trusts, and powers of attorney. But there’s a silent hero of the estate planning world—beneficiary designations. They’re simple, often set-and-forget, but they can be one of the most powerful tools in your financial toolkit.

In Episode 107 of The Last Paycheck Podcast, Archie and Jimmy walk listeners through the role of beneficiaries, how they bypass probate, and why failing to update them can lead to major (and expensive) problems.

Probate: The Process You Want to Avoid

Probate is the legal process of settling an estate when someone dies. It can involve court time, attorney fees, asset inventorying, creditor notification, and a lot of stress. Worse yet, it’s a public process, meaning anyone can look up the details of your estate, your debts, and your heirs.

But here’s the good news: any asset that has a properly named beneficiary avoids probate entirely.

Where You Should Assign Beneficiaries

You might already have beneficiaries listed on your 401(k)—but what about these other accounts?

  • IRAs or Roth IRAs
  • Life insurance policies
  • Bank accounts (POD designations)
  • Brokerage accounts (TOD designations)
  • Real estate (with TOD deed in some states)
  • Annuities and pensions

When you name a beneficiary (or better yet, a primary and a contingent), that asset transfers directly to the person you’ve named upon your death—no courts, no delays.

The Common Mistakes People Make

  • Leaving old beneficiaries on old accounts: Think ex-spouses, estranged relatives, or outdated family dynamics.
  • Failing to update after life changes: A marriage, divorce, or new child should always trigger a review.
  • Not naming contingent beneficiaries: If your primary passes away before you do, the asset could still wind up in probate.

Archie and Jimmy have seen too many people unintentionally leave retirement assets to a former spouse simply because they forgot to update an old form.

Why Consolidation Helps

Fewer accounts means fewer places to update. Consolidating retirement accounts and investment assets not only simplifies your portfolio—it reduces the chance that one forgotten form causes major issues later. It also makes things easier for your heirs, who won’t have to chase down half a dozen institutions in a difficult time.

Final Advice

Beneficiary designations are not a replacement for a full estate plan, but they are one of the most important pieces. Even if you don’t have a will or trust yet, you can still do this now—and it can make a world of difference.

Take five minutes to check your accounts today. Future you (and your loved ones) will thank you.

Think your beneficiaries are up to date?

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Episode 106 – Helping Kids vs. Saving for Retirement—How to Find the Right Balance

When your child calls and needs help with a student loan, a down payment, or rent, your first instinct is to help. As parents, it feels natural—essential even—to do everything in your power to support your kids.

But what happens when generosity collides with your own retirement goals?

In Episode 106 of the Last Paycheck Podcast, Rob and Archie Hoxton explore the emotionally charged (and financially risky) territory of financially supporting adult children. It’s a conversation more and more parents are facing in today’s world of rising costs and economic uncertainty.

The Hidden Cost of Generosity

According to Rob and Archie, many families fall into the trap of “retirement sacrifice syndrome.” That’s when parents provide ongoing support to adult children at the expense of their own financial security.

While the desire to help is understandable, overextending yourself can delay retirement, reduce your future options, and—ironically—create a future where you may have to rely on your children later in life.

Know the Difference: Crisis vs. Chronic

Not all help is harmful. Supporting a child through a genuine short-term crisis (job loss, medical emergency) is different than funding a lifestyle they can’t afford. The challenge lies in recognizing the pattern—and having the courage to set boundaries.

Rob and Archie offer questions to help parents reflect:

  • Is this a one-time request or an ongoing habit?
  • Am I enabling dependency instead of encouraging independence?
  • Can I afford this help without reducing my retirement contributions?

Strategies for Setting Boundaries (Without Guilt)

The episode suggests three practical ways to support kids while staying financially responsible:

  1. Set a Monthly Limit: Choose a dollar amount you can afford and stick to it. Communicate it clearly.
  2. Offer Assets, Not Cash: Gifting a used car or helping with a down payment using appreciated assets can reduce tax implications and keep things structured.
  3. Be Transparent: Share your retirement goals with your children so they understand what’s at stake.

When to Say “No”

If you’re pausing retirement contributions, tapping into savings, or feeling resentment, it’s time to reassess. Helping shouldn’t come at the cost of your financial future. In fact, the best gift you can give your children might be the example of financial independence.

Are you helping your kids more than your future self?

Download our Parent’s Financial Boundary Audit and find out if your generosity is sustainable—or setting you back. Schedule a no-pressure consultation to see how your current support impacts your retirement plan.
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Episode 105 – What’s Your Money Story? Childhood Beliefs That Still Shape Your Wallet

We all carry financial baggage—and most of it was packed before we turned ten.

In Episode 105 of Last Paycheck, Rob and Archie Hoxton explore how unconscious beliefs formed in childhood shape our adult financial habits. These “money scripts,” as defined by financial psychologist Brad Klontz, are emotional blueprints for how we think, feel, and behave around money.

Whether you’re a compulsive saver, impulsive spender, or anxious budgeter, this episode peels back the layers to help you understand why.

Money Memories That Stick

Archie shares his first financial memory: cutting grass for cash. Rob recalls matching Archie’s car savings, only to watch him game the system using gift money. These stories might seem small, but they reflect formative ideas—“Money is earned,” “Money can be leveraged,” or even “Money makes people anxious.”

Rob encourages listeners to ask themselves:
“What’s your first memory of money?”

The answer may reveal more than you think.

The Four Money Scripts

  1. Money Avoidance
    1. Belief: Money is bad or undeserved.
    2. Typical behavior: Chronic under-earning, guilt around wealth.
  2. Money Worship
    1. Belief: More money = more happiness.
    2. Typical behavior: Overspending, never feeling secure.
  3. Money Status
    1. Belief: Net worth equals self-worth.
    2. Typical behavior: Lifestyle inflation, keeping up appearances.
  4. Money Vigilance
    1. Belief: Always save, avoid risk.
    2. Typical behavior: Hoarding money, fear of spending—even when safe.

Rob and Archie stress that these scripts aren’t destiny. With awareness, reflection, and support, you can rewrite your narrative.

Why This Matters

Money scripts influence:

  • How you budget (or avoid it)
  • How you invest (or hoard cash)
  • How you talk to your spouse (or don’t)
  • How you prepare for retirement—or delay it entirely

Understanding your script doesn’t just help you manage money better. It helps you make decisions from clarity, not fear or habit.

Start With Reflection

  • What beliefs about money were modeled for you?
  • How do those show up in your life today?
  • Are they helping—or holding you back?

If your answers reveal patterns you’d like to change, you’re not alone. Rob and Archie recommend working with a financial advisor or therapist trained in financial behavior. The Financial Therapy Association (financialtherapyassociation.org) is a great resource.

Final Thought

You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge. But once you understand the money story you’ve been telling yourself—maybe since childhood—you can begin writing a new chapter.

Ever wonder why you save compulsively, overspend emotionally, or freeze when facing financial decisions?

It might trace back to beliefs formed in childhood. Download our Financial Baggage Self-Audit to uncover the money scripts that drive your decisions—and start rewriting your money story.
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